to tithe or not to tithe!

to tithe or not to tithe!

What I think about tithes is that since Jesus Christ died on the cross, there is no need for us to be paying tithes. But today’s Christians insist on it being paid. Now I am all about confused about tithing. If I tell one of this self-proclaimed born again christian’s that I don’t tithe, they will look at me with pity and say, that I am cheating God and go on and on about how God isn’t blessing me. But funny enough, I don’t see how God blesses them. So many people can cover up their problems you know.

While going through Facebook yesterday, I encountered a website that says that we shouldn’t pay our tithes with money. The website’s url name is http://www.tithing.com. In the olden days, money never existed. Infact, during the time of King David, I think the money used then was the shekel. This is a weight or scale, that measures the weight of commodities being exchanged. Yet this argument about not paying tithes with money still got me confused. Now at days, people work and get paid with money or hard earned currencies. Doesn’t that replace the labor of man in ancient times when your either a fisherman, farmer or cattle rarer. I am still confused.


What is the tithe? It is the “gateway for the believer into the covenant of blessings.” In the Hebrew “maaser” or “maasrah,” is translated tenth, or tenth part, and in Greek “apodekatoo” and in both, it means a payment or giving or receiving of the tenth.

The tithe is that tenth of our income that we give to God, which enables Him to move on our behalf in the area of blessings. The Bible records numerous accounts of man tithing to God. God is the creator of everything that exists. He owns everything and we are simply stewards of what we have been entrusted with. The tithe principle is this; “He gives unto us, we give back to Him one-tenth of all that He has blessed us with.”

I am not here to preach to you about tithing. But Tithes were meant to provide for the priest’s who served God, the orphans, widows and the poor. We do give tithes, but we do not care who uses it and how it is used. As Jesus warned the Pharisees, who gave their tithes but neglected the most important aspects of the law of God, which were, jut ice, mercy and faithfulness. It is important for Christians to know what the tithes they offer to their various churches, is being used for. The excuses that God will judge and you don’t care what they do with it is wrong. Jesus cared and he rebuked the pharisees and if you claim to be a follower of Christ, you should do same.

But first, when exactly should we give our tithes.

Leviticus 27:30–32 (NIV)

A tithe of everything from the land, whether grain from the soil or fruit from the trees, belongs to the Lord; it is holy to the Lord. Whoever would redeem any of their tithe must add a fifth of the value to it. Every tithe of the herd and flock—every tenth animal’.

Deuteronomy 26:12–15 (NIV)
When you have finished setting aside a tenth of all your produce in the third year, the year of the tithe, you shall give it to the Levite, the foreigner, the fatherless and the widow, so that they may eat in your towns and be satisfied.

Who can make me understand this scriptures please?



black couples

The manner a lady talks to her man, will determine how he respects you. If you talk in a manner that insults him, he won’t respect you. In fact, he will treat you like trash. Your man will think that you are an angry, crazy woman and that your family is too. But if you let him know what you think in a nice and humble way, he will know you are one of those girls, sweet, responsible and family oriented. If he is a man who shares your belief in the importance of family, he is going to keep talking to you and listen for more of your standards.

Here are a few examples on how you can let your man know your requirements and standards in a humble manner.

  • If your man shows up late for an appointment or date with you, don’t tell him you can’t stand a man who doesn’t keep up with time, rather let him know how you go out of your busy schedule to keep up to time and how you would make a phone call to let that person know why you can’t keep up to time. Your man will how not to keep you waiting on him.
  • Don’t pick up a fight with your man if he is cheats on you or sleeps with other women. I know this can be hard but try and let him know how honest you would be with him, in letting him know that you feel like seeing other people besides him, so that he can decide if he wants to continue the relationship as it is or date him alone. it helps you to make intelligent, rational decisions about how to deal with the situation if he is interested in seeing other women and how important it is for both of you to discuss your relationship whenever you have a problem.
  • If your man is that type of person who refuses to go to church on Sundays or who is not religious as you are, you don’t need to take it out on him. All you need to do is to let him know how Sundays are the best days of the week for you and that you are a God – fearing, church going woman and how you take your faith seriously. You need to learn how he feels about religion and spirituality.

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Got the picture? Now you have given us what we think is valuable information about the woman we are interested in, but more importantly, you have told us what your standards are in a humble way.

You need to let your man show you what he is made of, to prove that he is worthy of your time. You do not need to tell him what you expect from your man all at once and not giving him the chance to show you what he is willing to do for you. If you tell your man what you expect from him all at once, be sure not to expect more from him except the things you have just told him. Then you will start complaining about your man to your girlfriends about how he has stopped loving you. Instead of telling him what you like, tell him what you do not like and then see how he responds. Let him research and dig and figure out how to get to your sweet spot.

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To let your man know about your requirements for a man and the importance of following those requirements, you must figure out what, exactly your requirements are. These questions can help you determine what your requirements for your dream man are:

  1. What type of man are you looking for? (e.g funny, hardworking, generous, kind).
  2. How do you expect to be pursued? (e.g regular phone calls, text messages, chats, dating).
  3. What level of commitment do you expect? (e.g open relationship, dating exclusively).
  4. What kind of financial security do you expect him to have? (e.g wealthy, earning more than you, you don’t care).
  5. Do you want a man who wants kids and is family oriented?
  6. Does he have to be religious/spiritual?
  7. Do you mind if he is a divorcee or has kids?
  8. Can you help a man build his dream? Can you adapt to his plan?
  9. What do you expect of his family? Can you get along with his mum? Does he care if you get along with his mum?
  10. What should he be willing to do to woo you? (e.g pursue you, buy you expensive gifts).



peace of god

The peace of God is always represented in an image of a white dove. This bird is said to be gentle.

For a fact, I am not religious one bit but I do believe in God just like everybody. We have religious fanatics all over the world and one can’t trust them easily. You see people who think that they know God more than you do and they can easily lead you astray if you let them. A lot of Christians now worship their pastors and priests than God. The same thing with Muslims and their Imams. But I always like to be one with God. I just started practicing to do so. Here, let me show you how.

  • Be calm.

To be God, lower your ever-rising thoughts, and become calm. This can be done by deep breathing, watching the breath, yogic exercises (I am very lazy at this), meditation, and performing actions with a sense of complete surrender without expecting any fruits and rewards, etc

  • Empty your thoughts.

When the entire mind becomes thought-less, and at the same time, extremely alert and aware, you are one with the whole creation or God. I still find this very difficult to do.

  • Realize that there is only one entity, and that entity is omnipresent.

This means being present always, everywhere at all times, in each cell and pore of your body, your body in all materials, in animals, plants, rocks, rivers, everything and everywhere and all gross things including matter and energy are manifestations of this one entity, and that entity which is labelled as God is in everyone and everything will create pure, non-business, desire-less love.

  • Quieten the mind.

The easiest way to quieten the mind is doing very deep breathing for at least 10-15 minutes. One can breathe through each and every emotion, be it anger, love, hate, anything and transcend it and become calm and experience pure joy or bliss. Very easy to do and I tell you it has helped me a lot. You can try it.

  • Watch your emotions.

Emotions are nothing but sensations in some part of the body. Quietly watch these sensations, and the emotions will dissolve, and give way to pure love. Be a witness of your emotions and actions always, rather than becoming the actions and emotions. With this practice, you will be in pure joy or bliss in a short time whatever the external circumstances. God is nothing but pure love and bliss.

You don’t need to be overly religious to be one with God. God is peace and when you are at peace with your mind, body and soul, my sister and brother you are one with God. Hope this touched you in a positive way?