I AM IN LOVE WITH MY SISTER IN LAW.

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Ben was a millionaire before the age of 30. He had a good job with a multi-national company as an executive. He met his former wife Nkechi while she was 25 years old. They met one wet Wednesday morning while he was on his way to work and she was on her way to the university of lagos. She had just gained admission into university. As he drove by, he didn’t take notice of the puddle of rain water in front of him and he ran into it. Water splashed unto Nkechi and wet her clothes. She was about raining curses on the driver of the car before Ben stopped and apologised for the harm he had caused her. He offered to get her some new clothes and he took her to the closest boutique on the street which was open by then. He bought several clothes for her, took her to his place so she could get cleaned up and change. He got her a taxi cab to drop her off at school. They exchanged numbers. Thus began a whirlwind relationship that would end in marriage. Ben was like a God sent angel to Nkechi’s family. He met her families needs. He was such a generous in-law.

After his wife graduated from university and did her youth service, Ben set up a logistics business for his wife. With his contacts he helped her in getting clients who did good business with the young company.

Unfortunately, the multi-national company Ben worked with started experiencing financial problems in the international market. They had to retrench some staff. Ben was among those who got retrenched. Ben tried leaning back on the business his wife Nkechi was operating. His wife refused vehemently.

Meanwhile, his wife’s junior sister, Chioma, had been living with them all these years. She was a young naive graduate, who reluctantly ran errands in the house. When Ben and Nkechi were constantly fighting over the business, Chioma sided her brother in law and tried pleading with her elder sister to see reason with her husband. But Nkechi would have none of that and threatened to send Chioma back to their parents house. Ben’s in laws tried to persuade their daughter too, but she would have none of it. Unknowingly, Nkechi was having an affair with her manager. One unfortunate day, she took her belongings and three kids she had with Ben, and walked out of the marriage.

Ben had returned to meet an empty house and his sister in law who tried explaining the unfortunate event to him. It was a  heart breaking experience for Ben. Chioma did all she could to console him but Ben was inconsolable. Days passed into weeks, weeks into months. Chioma tried to leave the house so as not to be a burden to Ben but he insisted that she stayed. Her family encouraged her to stay. That naive and reluctant sister in law took care of Ben and the house. She cooked, cleaned and washed. As God would have it she got a very good job and good payment with it. Even when Ben went bankrupt, she still helped out in taking care of their needs. She even gave him pocket money so that he could take care of his needs.

Ben was lucky to get a new job with better entitlements from his last job. And to show his gratitude, he took Chioma out on an expensive and exclusive date to show his gratitude for all she did for him. One thing led to another and he kissed her. They drove back home late in the night and as Chioma made for her room, he grabbed her arm and looked deeply into her eyes. Her eyes were pleading with Ben not to but he just couldn’t resist her. He took her into his arms and with their bodies clinging into each other, they kissed in a deep wet kiss. He carried her on his arms while her hands and head rested on his chests and neck respectively into his room and he made love to her until the wee hours of the morning.

Ben has proposed to Chioma. His estranged wife Nkechi wants to come back. He didn’t divorce Nkechi. Ben is still hell bent on marrying Chioma who is already pregnant for him. His in laws support him. Nkechi is using Ben’s family to win her husband back but most of them support Ben.

Now the big question, if you were in Ben’s shoes, what would you do? Stay with your sister in law who stood by your side when you had no one or go back to your wife who abandoned you when you needed her the most?

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AGRICULTURAL DIVERSIFICATION: DO NIGERIAN LEADERS UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS?!

agricultural diversification.

agricultural diversification.

The Nigerian government is interested in diversifying the Nigerian economy from a mono-economy to a multi-economy. This will enable the country to stop being dependent on revenue gotten from the oil and gas industry. Unfortunately, before oil was discovered in the Niger Delta in 1958, Nigeria was an agricultural super power. We exported the largest amounts of cocoa in the south western part of the country, palm oil in the south eastern parts and groundnuts and cotton in the northern parts of Nigeria. We were the largest exporters of these listed commodities before the civil war, in Africa, but soon after the civil war ended, misguided leadership from successive military regimes and democratically elected administrations, have led us astray and depended on oil. These misguided leadership, have even assisted corrupt politicians, businessmen, civilians and the military, to steal everything we have and now they desire that we venture into other industries, especially agriculture they left to die.

a modern farm

a modern farm

These people do not know what industrial diversification means. Industrial diversification is a strategy that involves choosing to structure an industry in a manner that promotes involvement in a wide range of revenue producing activities. The goal of any type of industrial diversification is increase the chances of returns by diversifying or spreading assets over a wider range of activities, while also helping to minimize the potential for failure or loss.

As it relates to production operations, industrial diversification has to do with providing goods and services that appeal to multiple markets rather than focusing on a product line that appeals to mainly one market. For example, a company may operate plant facilities that produce clothing items at one location, while also manufacturing bedding and other types of household textiles at another. At times, the diversification may involve completely unrelated products, such as a company that produces a line of office supplies but also has a division focused on the production of televisions and other electrical entertainment devices. The degree of industrial diversification will often be influenced by what owners believe will provide the best possible protection from declines in one market by enjoying corresponding increases in demand in another market.

What this means is that in agriculture, we can diversify the industry, which would increase the returns after we must have spread assets over a wider range of activities. Take for example, palm oil is a major agricultural commodity in the south eastern part of Nigeria, cassava is also a major crop grown in this region. With diversification, agricultural practitioners can introduce new crops like tomatoes, potatoes, groundnuts, beans and the rest of them to the south east and which would improve the economic returns from different value-added crops and marketing opportunities. With the threat of marauding Fulani-herdsmen from the north, who are trying to seize lands down south for cattle grazing, if we truly support agricultural diversification, we can then introduce dairy cattle and other livestock farming in the southern parts of Nigeria. The economic benefits to these idea is huge, but I do not think we have the political will to make this happen. Look at the grazing bill tearing the nation apart, were government want to take lands from all states of the federation and hand it over to Hausa-Fulani herdsmen, the same people who have been killing innocent Nigerians. The same people who have been labeled the fourth most violent terrorist group in the world by Amnesty International.

Industrial diversification can also occur in other industries like, power, transportation, tourism, health, sports, communication, information technology etc. We need our economists, especially the CBN to look more into this.

Agricultural diversification is a success in India. I rest my case.

For more infor please visit;

http://www.fao.org/docrep/005/ac484e/ac484e06.htm

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agricultural_diversification.

PRESIDENT BUHARI WILL SURELY FAIL.

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President Buhari might be a likable man but he has flows. He is handling a situation that has become more sophisticated than he is. In simple language, he is “old school”. The current situation clearly defines what I am talking about.

When Buhari was sworn in as president on May 29th, 2015, his body language made Nigerians to be in line, but when his government showed a little lapse in being unserious in having a cabinet, corruption became bold enough to stand up to him. He has lost the momentum.

President Buhari believes in big government. He thinks that government can do everything. That’s definitely old school, ain’t it?! That is why there is fuel scarcity and fuel is being rationed nationwide. Yet fuel is being sold above the set price in major filling stations in oil producing states and the government is ensuring that fuel is being sold at the national price of #87 in non oil producing states like Lagos. You can’t make the NNPC the sole importers of petroleum products into the country in this day and age. It doesn’t work like that.

I don’t know what this craze is about having a big government. We need to trim down the size of government because the cost of managing governments has gone overboard. Government has no business being in business. The solution to our economic problems lies in privatisation and diversification of the Nigerian economy. Government needs to regulate the economy so that the major players in each industry do not take advantage of Nigerians.

And if Buhari really wants to fight corruption, he needs to use modern means to fight it. Modern technology will make the difference. I am sorry, Buhari will not succeed as a democratically elected president. This is no military regime and if the military dares to interfere in our democratic process because Buhari wants it, there will be dare consequences. There are no “Idiagbon’s” to help him now. Nigeria needs intelligent and creative leaders with vision to make a real “Change” in our country.

Cheta Okorafor

I SUPPORT PRESIDENT BUHARI ON THE NAIRA!

President Buhari

President Buhari

A lot has been said about the recent fall of the Naira against the Dollar in the parallel market and the state of the Nigerian economy. People are worried and scared but I don’t think there is any reason to be scared. In fact, I now support President Buhari on his refusal to devalue the Naira. Those who are insisting that he does so, are among the individuals who have been looting our national treasury. The people who have been glamouring for the devaluation of the Naira are people who have been benefiting from the continuous devaluation of the Naira. The President must stand his ground.

The Central Bank of Nigeria banned some items imported into the country on a daily basis. Most of these items can be produced in the country but the Manufacturers Association of Nigeria and the Nigerian Association of Chambers of Commerce, Industry, Mines and Agriculture, told Nigerians that the CBN had actually banned the importation of over 700 items. They insisted that most of their members are closing shop because of their inability to import these items. One of these items can be gotten from palm oil. Palm oil was a major exporting product in the former Eastern Nigerian region before the civil war. Nigeria was the largest exporter of the commodity before Oil and Gas stole the show. Indonesia and Malaysia came to our country and took palm kernel seedlings and planted them in their countries. Today, both countries are the largest exporters of the product in the world.What an irony! See where our tribal selfishness has led us to! Now that the federal government have refused to devalue the Naira, thereby making it difficult for importers to import products into Nigeria, will they support the South eastern states to revive the mass production and processing of palm oil? Will Buhari now want Northerners to be the main producers of the product? This was how Obasanjo made it difficult for exporters and importers to do their business by placing high tariffs on other ports and airports so that the lagos ports and lagos and abuja airports were the only places we go export and import items in and out of the country. I wonder.

Going back to the argument at hand, the more we import goods into the country, the more we will deplete our national reserves, thereby killing the Naira, of which our politicians have depleted to the barest minimum, by diverting funds that belong to the nation, for their personal use. This cuts across parties. Also the CBN needs to stop lending money to big corporations like Dangote Group and Co. If you must ensure that the Naira does not die, you need to stop supporting large corporations. If MAN and NACCIMA members can not find forex funds to import items that they would use for their business, why would you make it easily available for Dangote to build his industries?

Nigeria has the largest consumer market in Africa and that is why we are the beautiful bride. Why would we be the largest market in Africa and major corporations would have their African head quarters or major factories built in other African countries, whose populations do not even make up to one-third of our population? Even if they built their factories in Nigeria, will the ethnic quagmire allow them to do so? Look how long it has taken the Ajaokuta Steel mill to be set up.

Although the official rate of the dollar is #198 and over #400 in the parallel (black) market, we can still buy products from foreign countries at the official rate. Even foreign organizations recognize that rate. When you go to the black market you buy at their prize. So if you want to buy a product for $200, you will need to pay #40,000. But if you go to the black market you must have double that amount to do so at #80,000 or more. With the way the world has changed with the internet, you can pay for any item online or with your atm card and spend less money.

The only time we would experience economic difficulties is when the supply for the banned products gets depleted, things will get costly. But if the government and the CBN can encourage local entrepreneurs and farmers to meet the markets needs, there will be no cause for alarm. Buy Nigerian goods to grow the Naira. .

 

HOW TO DEAL WITH A TOUGH BOSS.

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Having a tough time with your boss already this new year? One of the main reasons that workers become unhappy at work is bad management. A tough boss can turn even a good working environment into an uncomfortable and unhappy workplace. They have the ability to assign good or bad tasks, and ultimately to fire us. This power imbalance is why a good relationship with your manager is so important. If you want to know how to deal with a bad boss and to improve your work environment, continue reading.

  1. IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOSS.
  • Speak up: If you are struggling to have a good relationship with your boss, then you shouldn’t stay in silence. Talking to your boss about the problems you’re having in a calm, polite, and professional manner can help you work together to resolve them. Of course, the type of relationship you have and the type of person your boss is can affect how you approach your conversation, but in general, saying something and trying to improve the relationship is superior to getting angry and frustrated and not being able to get your work done.  You’d be surprised by how many bosses have no idea that the people they are managing are feeling overlooked, angry, frustrated, or like they’re getting mixed signals. When you voice your concerns with your boss, then he or she will be grateful that you said something. If you never say anything to your boss about it, then there are almost no chances that your work relationship or your work environment will improve. Saying something is unpleasant, but it’ll be worth it in the long run. You should carefully plan what you’ll say, ask your boss to set a time to talk, and come prepared with evidence and examples of times when you were frustrated with your situation.
  • Work with your boss, not against him or her: Though it may feel good to undermine your boss or to make him or her look foolish or incompetent, in the long run, it’s far better to help your boss look better and to achieve goals that are good for you and the company. If you spend your time making your boss look incompetent at meetings or sabotaging your boss’s efforts to get work done, then you’ll only be poisoning your relationship and your work environment. Instead of making things work for yourself, try to help your boss achieve goals and everything will run more smoothly. Sure, the last thing you may want to do is to work with someone you don’t really respect all that much. But this is far better than constantly being at odds with someone you work with.
  • Keep track of all of your interactions: Though documenting all of the annoying or horrible things your boss has done to you may not sound like the greatest way to spend your time, you should start doing this once you feel like the situation has gotten out of hand. Keep all of your negative email correspondences, save memos that show that your boss is giving mixed messages, and just do whatever you can to document all of the problems you have had in your professional relationship. If you and your boss discuss your problematic relationship and your boss acts like he or she doesn’t know what you’re talking about, then you have something to point to as proof. If your boss just hears that you’re getting mixed messages, it’s less effective than showing him or her two emails with completely different messages.Secondly, If your boss is the type to bring false charges against you, then documenting all of your interactions, or even having your communication in front of others, can help you set the record straight.
  • Don’t bad mouth your boss to your coworkers: Saying negative things about your boss to your coworkers will only fuel the fire at best or get you in trouble at worst. Though you may feel tempted to vent about your boss’s managerial style, you should keep your negative feelings to yourself. Having your coworkers join you in complaining about your boss won’t make the problem go away, and if the wrong coworker catches word of what you’re saying, it may get back to your boss in a very unpleasant way. You should especially avoid saying anything negative about your boss to your superiors. This won’t help your reputation. Remember that you want to look like the agreeable person who gets along with everyone, not like the crank who is always complaining about everyone in the office.
  • Anticipate problems before they happen: Another way to improve your relationship with your boss to is to watch out for future problems and try to make them go away before something blows up. Think of it as anticipating the tantrum of a toddler. If you hear your boss begin to fume on the other side of the hallway, you better have prepared something to say to calm him down, or have found a way to stay out of the situation. If you know your boss pretty well, then you should know the kinds of things that set him or her off, and you’d be better off if you came up with a game plan before things exploded. If you know that a coworker is going to introduce a major problem in the office at a meeting, you can talk to your boss about the problem in advance so he or she feels prepared. If you know that your boss is in a foul mood whenever it’s raining and he is stuck in traffic, be prepared for some good news when he or she walks in the door.
  • Work around your boss’s weaknesses: Sure, it may be tempting to exploit your boss’s weaknesses, but that won’t get you very far in your company or your work environment. Instead, work to help your boss to counteract his or her weaknesses so that everything runs more efficiently and with less conflict. If your boss is chronically late to meetings, offer to kick off the next meeting for him or her. If your boss is disorganized, offer to get the next report into shape before you have to present it to your clients. Look for places where you can really help your boss and jump at the opportunity. If you help your boss get things in order, then your relationship will have to improve. Your boss may even be grateful for it.
  • Praise your boss when he or she gets it right: Many managers never receive praise because somehow, it is mistakenly believed that praise should only flow from managers to employees. You may be nervous about approaching your manager to offer advice, but good managers are truly grateful for constructive, useful feedback, and will appreciate any opportunity they get to learn how to do a better job. However, be careful not to flatter a bad boss, because that won’t get you anywhere. Your boss will be impressed at your attempt to make him or her feel more positive about his or her managing style and everything will run more smoothly.

We will continue with part II of this write up next week.

KENYAN MUSLIMS PROTECT CHRISTIANS FROM SOMALI TERRORISTS.

Some Muslims travelling with Christians for the Christmas holidays in Kenya, stopped the Somali terrorist group,Al-Shabab, from killing them. The bus they were traveliing in was ambushed along their route from Nairobi, Kenya to the town of Mandera, near the village of El Wak, on the Somali border. The Muslims refused to be separated from the Christians and demanded that they be killed along side the Christians. The terrorists fled after the Muslims prevented the from committing such atrocities. Remember that in April, some terrorists attacked a university and freed Muslims while singling out about 148 Christians and shooting them to death. They also carried out an attack in a shopping mall in 2013, were they also singled out Muslims and murdered Christians too.

somali based al-shabab terrorist group

somali based al-shabab terrorist group

Below is a list of attacks carried out by Al-Shabab in Kenya.
September 2013 – Al-Shabab militants seize the Westgate shopping mall in the capital Nairobi, killing 67 people.
June 2014 – At least 48 people die after Islamist militants attack hotels and a police station in Mpeketoni, near the island resort of Lamu.
November 2014 – The group targets a bus full of teachers in Mandera County, executing 28 non-Muslims at point-blank range.
December 2014- Al-Shabab kills 36 non-Muslim quarry workers near the north Kenyan town of Mandera.
April 2015 – Militants carry out a massacre at Garissa University College in north-east Kenya, killing 148 people.

read more here http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-35151967.

BECOME ONE WITH GOD!

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The peace of God is always represented in an image of a white dove. This bird is said to be gentle.

For a fact, I am not religious one bit but I do believe in God just like everybody. We have religious fanatics all over the world and one can’t trust them easily. You see people who think that they know God more than you do and they can easily lead you astray if you let them. A lot of Christians now worship their pastors and priests than God. The same thing with Muslims and their Imams. But I always like to be one with God. I just started practicing to do so. Here, let me show you how.

  • Be calm.

To be God, lower your ever-rising thoughts, and become calm. This can be done by deep breathing, watching the breath, yogic exercises (I am very lazy at this), meditation, and performing actions with a sense of complete surrender without expecting any fruits and rewards, etc

  • Empty your thoughts.

When the entire mind becomes thought-less, and at the same time, extremely alert and aware, you are one with the whole creation or God. I still find this very difficult to do.

  • Realize that there is only one entity, and that entity is omnipresent.

This means being present always, everywhere at all times, in each cell and pore of your body, your body in all materials, in animals, plants, rocks, rivers, everything and everywhere and all gross things including matter and energy are manifestations of this one entity, and that entity which is labelled as God is in everyone and everything will create pure, non-business, desire-less love.

  • Quieten the mind.

The easiest way to quieten the mind is doing very deep breathing for at least 10-15 minutes. One can breathe through each and every emotion, be it anger, love, hate, anything and transcend it and become calm and experience pure joy or bliss. Very easy to do and I tell you it has helped me a lot. You can try it.

  • Watch your emotions.

Emotions are nothing but sensations in some part of the body. Quietly watch these sensations, and the emotions will dissolve, and give way to pure love. Be a witness of your emotions and actions always, rather than becoming the actions and emotions. With this practice, you will be in pure joy or bliss in a short time whatever the external circumstances. God is nothing but pure love and bliss.

You don’t need to be overly religious to be one with God. God is peace and when you are at peace with your mind, body and soul, my sister and brother you are one with God. Hope this touched you in a positive way?