I am a Nigerian and I am an Igbo man from the South Eastern part of my country. I was born in the Northern part of Nigeria and now live in the most populous city in Nigeria, Lagos. I once dated a yoruba girl. Actually she is mixed in tribe. Her father was yoruba and her mum is from Delta State. We aren’t seeing each other anymore. Did I enjoy dating her? I don’t think I did. She didn’t meet my expectations in a lady intellectually.
I have a female friend who dated and married a yoruba guy. She is igbo. I kept asking her why she left igbo guys to spend the rest of her life with a man who isn’t from her tribe. She accused me of being a tribalist. But truth be told, she felt comfortable with the man. Now they are happily married. Do you know how many igbo guys who must have broken her heart and dissapointed her when she tried dating them?
Due to the ethnic differences in Nigeria, only a few Nigerians have the courage to date and eventually get maried to people from other tribes or ethnic groups. I haven’t seen an igbo man marry a muslim hausa fulani woman. Due to the religious difference between the two tribes, that can never happen because no muslim in the north would want his or her daughter to get married to a christian man, especially if he is igbo. Igbo men get married to northern christian women. Igbo women have are known to have married hausa fulani muslim men. Some of them convert to islam.
Down south of Nigeria, we inter-marry. Yoruba men marry igbo women, igbo men marry yoruba women. Same as other tribes in the southern part of Nigeria. But they aren’t much.
While watching the American sitcoms, Black-ish and Dear White People, I discovered the discrepancies in having an interracial marriage or having light skinned kids. The kids suffer most here. They don’t know who they belong with. Let’s take for example the former president of the United States, Barack Obama. Till today they still debate if he is an American or not because his father was Kenyan and his mother was a white woman. Even African Americans say that he isn’t a true black man.
But do people of different races show interest in dating people who don’t belong to their race? Yes. I do want to meet Asian and Latino women. I like them. I also love white women. As long as she isn’t skinny and have small breasts.
Would I want to get married to a woman who isn’t from my tribe here in Nigeria? I don’t know. If she knows how to cook our dishes maybe I will. Would I want to date women other African countries? Yes I do. Especially from South Africa, Kenya, Ethiopia, Ghana, Gambia and some North African countries.
So can you date someone who isn’t from your tribe, race or country? Let’s talk.