THE KARDASHIANS: A DERANGED FAMILY AFFAIR.

trying to keep up with the khardasians

trying to keep up with the khardasians

I have tried putting my head around writing about this deranged family. Yes, this family is deranged. The fami ly came into limelight when their late father, Robert Kardashian (1944-2003) defended O.J Simpson for the murders of Nicole Brown Simpson and Ronald Goldman during a lengthy trial, in 1994. Robert Kardashian and Kristen Mary “Kris” Houghton married in 1978, and had four children together, daughters Kourtney, Kim, and Khloe, and son Rob. The couple divorced in 1991. In 1991, Kris married retired Olympic decathlon champion Bruce Jenner now known as Caitlyn Jenner after undergoing a gender transition in 2015. Caitlyn and Kris had two daughters together, Kendall and Kylie. Robert died in 2003 eight weeks after being diagnosed with esophageal cancer. The Kardashian sisters later started appearing in the media spotlight more often; in 2004, Kim became a personal stylist to recording artist Brandy Norwood; she eventually developed into a full-time stylist, and was a personal shopper and stylist to actress Lindsay Lohan. Khloé, Kim and Kourtney further ventured into fashion, opening a high fashion boutique Dash in Calabasas, California. Throughout Kim’s early career, she involved herself in some high-profile relationships including Norwood’s brother, rapper Ray J, and later, singer Nick Lachey. In 2006, Kourtney starred in her first reality television series, Filthy Rich: Cattle Drive. In February 2007, a home sex video that Kim made with Ray J years earlier was leaked. Vivid Entertainment bought the rights for US$1 million and released the film as Kim Kardashian: Superstar on February 21. Kim sued Vivid for ownership of the tape, but dropped the suit in April 2007 and settled with Vivid Entertainment for US$5 million. It is often assumed that the release of the sex tape played a large part towards the rising fame of Kim Kardashian as well as her family altogether.

Now my take on this family is simple. I love them but some of their actions piss me off a bit. I haven’t watched Keeping Up With The Kardashians for a long time becuase the program makes no sense to me. How can I sit down for hours watching a family live their lives. Does it mean I don’t have a life or my own lifestyle, Pleaseeeeee?! Now I read about them. I hear Khloe Khardashian has her own t.v show ans she’s putting up with her ex-husband, Lamar Odom,whom she revoked their divorce with after he was taken to hospital after collapsing with an overdose of drugs in a brothel. Her new boo, the Houston Rockets, James Harden doesn’t want to put up with that. Kourtney has broken up with her alcohol addicted boy friend and father of her kids, Scott Dissick. Rob was said to be diabetic and is now hitting the gym to get back in shape. He is now dating Blac Chyna, the baby mama to hip hop artiste, Tyga who has an on and off relationship with Kylie Jenner. Kim Khardashian, whose sex tape brought the family to fame, is married to Kanye West and has two kids for him. Kris Jenner, there mother, is dating a black man far younger than her, while Bruce Jenner decided to be a transsexual and now goes by the name Caitlyn Jenner. We don’t know much about Kendall Jenner because she maybe have refused to showcase her lifestyle to people to see but she is a model.

Na wah o! This family sef! Una own don too much! Other families dey exist! No be only una!

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DID I MARRY A MAN OR A BOY?!

daughter and mother in laws vying to get the attention of the man in their lives.

daughter and mother in laws vying to get the attention of the man in their lives.

While going home from work some days ago, I overheard one lady talking to her friend in a cab about her worrisome mother-in-law. Although she claimed that her relationship with her husband was great, she was not happy with her husband’s “controlling” mother. She stated that her mother-in-law controls her husband like a little child. She calls on him to do everything. She even lives with us right now. He doesn’t spend time with me or the kids. His mother doesn’t allow him to. I am tired of all this. She even gets involved in the decision making in the house. I am just tired. Why can’t she go back to her house and spend time with her husband? I just wonder if I married a man or a boy? He needs to stand up to his mother!

Sincerely speaking, it is the woman’s fault and not her husband. Yeah! The reason why your husband pays so much attention to his mother than you, his lawfully wedded wife, is that she has set requirements and standards he dare not break and you have not. A real man is happy and eager to live by your rules, as long as he knows what the rules are and he is sure that abiding by those rules will keep the woman he loves happy. If you don’t set these rules, he will follow his mothers rules. She was the first woman to tell him what she would and would not accept. He followed her rules because he loves his mother and still does. These rules include respecting her, loving her unconditionally, protecting and providing for the woman who gave him life. He will relinquish these rules when he meets the woman he will have to spend the rest of his life with. And when you set the rules you must insist that he respects you (if you respect him firstly and equally!), that he puts you and your kids above everybody else after God and that he has to be clear to everyone involved in your lives that they respect your relationship and you.

You must accept that you can not compete with his mother. If he loves his mother and they have a good relationship, you are not going to come into the middle of that. But you can insist that your man act as a man when it comes to you and his mother. Let him know that you can not play second fiddle to his mother. That he must meet to the needs of his wife and kids before he meets to the needs of his mother. His mother may not like it but she will get over it when she realizes that her son is no longer a boy but a man and that he needs to be a provider and protector to his new family. His mother will come around and will also respect you as her son’s wife.

Stay blessed and have a happy married life.

60 YEAR OLD BUSINESS WOMAN KNIFED TO DEATH IN HER HOME.

A 34-year-old ski worker has appeared at court this morning charged with the murder of businesswoman Sadie Hartley. Sarah Williams was remanded in custody following a brief hearing before magistrates in Blackburn this morning. She is accused of killing the mother-of-two in a knife attack at her £450,000 home on Thursday. Ms Williams spoke only to confirm her name, date of birth and address.

She will appear again at Preston Crown Court on Friday. Detectives raided her buy-to-let property in Leasowe, Wirral, on Sunday, ripping up floorboards, searching garden bins and removing computers and phones.

Ms Williams was arrested on Saturday. A second woman, aged 55, was taken in for question by police on Monday. She was arrested and remains in custody.

Sadie Hartley, the unfortunate lady who got knifed in her home.

Sadie Hartley, the unfortunate lady who got knifed in her home.

For more about this story, visit; http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3407422/Ski-blonde-s-home-searched-police-probe-businesswoman-60-knifed-death-love-rival.html.

HOW TO DEAL WITH A TOUGH BOSS.

bad boss

Having a tough time with your boss already this new year? One of the main reasons that workers become unhappy at work is bad management. A tough boss can turn even a good working environment into an uncomfortable and unhappy workplace. They have the ability to assign good or bad tasks, and ultimately to fire us. This power imbalance is why a good relationship with your manager is so important. If you want to know how to deal with a bad boss and to improve your work environment, continue reading.

  1. IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOSS.
  • Speak up: If you are struggling to have a good relationship with your boss, then you shouldn’t stay in silence. Talking to your boss about the problems you’re having in a calm, polite, and professional manner can help you work together to resolve them. Of course, the type of relationship you have and the type of person your boss is can affect how you approach your conversation, but in general, saying something and trying to improve the relationship is superior to getting angry and frustrated and not being able to get your work done.  You’d be surprised by how many bosses have no idea that the people they are managing are feeling overlooked, angry, frustrated, or like they’re getting mixed signals. When you voice your concerns with your boss, then he or she will be grateful that you said something. If you never say anything to your boss about it, then there are almost no chances that your work relationship or your work environment will improve. Saying something is unpleasant, but it’ll be worth it in the long run. You should carefully plan what you’ll say, ask your boss to set a time to talk, and come prepared with evidence and examples of times when you were frustrated with your situation.
  • Work with your boss, not against him or her: Though it may feel good to undermine your boss or to make him or her look foolish or incompetent, in the long run, it’s far better to help your boss look better and to achieve goals that are good for you and the company. If you spend your time making your boss look incompetent at meetings or sabotaging your boss’s efforts to get work done, then you’ll only be poisoning your relationship and your work environment. Instead of making things work for yourself, try to help your boss achieve goals and everything will run more smoothly. Sure, the last thing you may want to do is to work with someone you don’t really respect all that much. But this is far better than constantly being at odds with someone you work with.
  • Keep track of all of your interactions: Though documenting all of the annoying or horrible things your boss has done to you may not sound like the greatest way to spend your time, you should start doing this once you feel like the situation has gotten out of hand. Keep all of your negative email correspondences, save memos that show that your boss is giving mixed messages, and just do whatever you can to document all of the problems you have had in your professional relationship. If you and your boss discuss your problematic relationship and your boss acts like he or she doesn’t know what you’re talking about, then you have something to point to as proof. If your boss just hears that you’re getting mixed messages, it’s less effective than showing him or her two emails with completely different messages.Secondly, If your boss is the type to bring false charges against you, then documenting all of your interactions, or even having your communication in front of others, can help you set the record straight.
  • Don’t bad mouth your boss to your coworkers: Saying negative things about your boss to your coworkers will only fuel the fire at best or get you in trouble at worst. Though you may feel tempted to vent about your boss’s managerial style, you should keep your negative feelings to yourself. Having your coworkers join you in complaining about your boss won’t make the problem go away, and if the wrong coworker catches word of what you’re saying, it may get back to your boss in a very unpleasant way. You should especially avoid saying anything negative about your boss to your superiors. This won’t help your reputation. Remember that you want to look like the agreeable person who gets along with everyone, not like the crank who is always complaining about everyone in the office.
  • Anticipate problems before they happen: Another way to improve your relationship with your boss to is to watch out for future problems and try to make them go away before something blows up. Think of it as anticipating the tantrum of a toddler. If you hear your boss begin to fume on the other side of the hallway, you better have prepared something to say to calm him down, or have found a way to stay out of the situation. If you know your boss pretty well, then you should know the kinds of things that set him or her off, and you’d be better off if you came up with a game plan before things exploded. If you know that a coworker is going to introduce a major problem in the office at a meeting, you can talk to your boss about the problem in advance so he or she feels prepared. If you know that your boss is in a foul mood whenever it’s raining and he is stuck in traffic, be prepared for some good news when he or she walks in the door.
  • Work around your boss’s weaknesses: Sure, it may be tempting to exploit your boss’s weaknesses, but that won’t get you very far in your company or your work environment. Instead, work to help your boss to counteract his or her weaknesses so that everything runs more efficiently and with less conflict. If your boss is chronically late to meetings, offer to kick off the next meeting for him or her. If your boss is disorganized, offer to get the next report into shape before you have to present it to your clients. Look for places where you can really help your boss and jump at the opportunity. If you help your boss get things in order, then your relationship will have to improve. Your boss may even be grateful for it.
  • Praise your boss when he or she gets it right: Many managers never receive praise because somehow, it is mistakenly believed that praise should only flow from managers to employees. You may be nervous about approaching your manager to offer advice, but good managers are truly grateful for constructive, useful feedback, and will appreciate any opportunity they get to learn how to do a better job. However, be careful not to flatter a bad boss, because that won’t get you anywhere. Your boss will be impressed at your attempt to make him or her feel more positive about his or her managing style and everything will run more smoothly.

We will continue with part II of this write up next week.

BUHARI WILL NOT MAKE A GOOD PRESIDENT!

President Buhari's first media chat with journalists.

President Buhari’s first media chat with journalists.

On the 30th of December, 2015, President Buhari had his maiden media chat with the press. I wasn’t satisfied with his performance, although I was impressed with the questions thrown at him by the journalists who questioned him on that night. I would have preferred that Jonathan remained as president. Why you may ask with all the corruption charges against members of his cabinet and his administration. Let me ask you a question, is the APC better off? Nigerians are being misled with this hullabaloo (noise) about corruption against one party. Both parties spent huge amounts of money in advertisements and campaigns during the run-up to the elections in 2015. In fact, the APC outdid the PDP in adverts. Their billboards sprung up weeks and months ahead of the PDP and they were everywhere. Both parties even started campaigns before the selected time by INEC to do so.

Going back to the issue at hand, when the crisis of the removal of oil subsidy by the GEJ administration in 2011 came to a head, I was totally against the GEJ administration and wanted “CHANGE” by all means possible. But with the escalation of the Boko Haram insurgency and the noise being made by the then opposition party and northern elites, against the GEJ administration, I changed my mind and became a staunch supporter of Jonathan. It was plain to see that this was a scheme by the Hausa Fulani’s and Yoruba’s to get rid of the Ijaw man at the helm. It was an ethnic motivated scheme to get rid of GEJ and I hope that the supporters of the present administration who now call supporters of GEJ the “wailing wailers” would understand this.

The media chat with Buhari showed us that we have a president who is there to maintain the foolish statement that Hausa Fulani’s are born to rule and no southern Nigerian has the right to do so, especially those who come from the former eastern region of Nigeria, the Igbo’s and lower Niger basin minorities. Yet the oil that comes from that region is good for Nigeria and we are not good enough to rule this nation and yet these crooks keep telling us that we are one Nigeria. One Nigeria does not exist to me.

How can we have a president who does not know what the CBN is doing to the economy and subjecting Nigerians who want to do business overseas with untold difficulties in doing so? How can we have a president who doesn’t obey court directives and a president who passes judgments in cases he doesn’t preside in? Does he think that these are military tribunals? How can we have a president who promised to give unemployed Nigerian youths N5, 000 monthly and now tells us that these youths need to farm to earn this promised stipend? How can we have a president who is hell bent in fighting corruption and yet does not know the economic direction the country should head at? How can we have a president who asks that a tribe who are agitating for self-determination, to state how they are being marginalized, when he knows how he appointed people to his government?

Yet people who support him will shout blue murder when people criticize Buhari for lacking vision. Is it a most for an non-educated Northerner to rule us? Why can’t northerners like El-Rufai or Atiku rule Nigeria? There are bright young Nigerians in the north who can rule Nigeria. I don’t expect anything from Buhari. He will not take us anywhere. This is a man who lacks vision and if he does, he hasn’t shown it. Maybe the man has an erotic encounter with this obsessed desire to fight corruption. You can’t fight corruption by arresting people up and down and trying to force Nigerians to act right. If we have a government that can efficiently provide workable solutions to the problems affecting Nigerians, we will behave normally. Sometimes I wonder if these fools in government know anything. Even El-Rufai, a staunch supporter of Buhari has started complaining.